For every teen, there will finally come a desire to cut loose from their parents. That is the beginning of the change from childhood to adulthood. However, the imaginings of a young adult can in no way match up to what’s coming. Young is sceptical about the ongoing change of adolescence. It can be very distressing. Understandably, a growing young is trying desperately to control it. Young adult still has to face the changed physical appearance of their identity. The arrogance of the adolescent towards the change and nature, in general, is nothing but their struggle against parents and features related to adulthood. Friedrich Nietzsche meant this when he wrote that with his morals man has turned against his best qualities.
Does shame have any function?
Yes, shame has a function, and it has to do with growing up. Young will confront many things that blush him; things that he didn’t know, or didn’t want to know, or others didn’t want him or her to know. In the scientific literature, the role of shame has remained mostly undefined, but it can be connected with the psychological mechanisms of growing up, and say that, generally, the function of shame is to prevent a child and teen to grow up too soon. To be more precise, shame reinforces awareness of the young him/herself. Shame is a protection mechanism. Freud’s view of the Oedipus complex can only be understood in a meaningful way if we think the anger directed—not so much at the parents, but more at the adulthood, the parents represent. Also, the theory of libido’s significant contribution to human progress would be more meaningful if we connect it with the strong contribution of will rather than sexuality itself.
Shame is one of the hallmarks of youth and is therefore forbidden in wild nature. Adam and Eve’s shame revealed them mentally immature (adolescent) and therefore unsuitable for the Paradise (nature).
Psychology of youth
Young person is usually unstable, dissatisfied with himself, short-sighted and also sensitive, mainly because he is losing the world of his childhood. Mentally, adolescence and puberty come into being of waiting for the future change, and the also of uncertainty that the change the young expects won’t come at all. The young expects at least to get his own identity clarified, which is seen as a positive major task of youth without realising that it is a struggle against the natural change of growing up man. In the ancient times, the biggest challenge for a teenager was the surrounding reality and its dangers, but in the civilisations that is the cultural environment and—himself.
As young person grows he loses the open-minded ease, which covered approval of people, values, authorities, parents, home and family and a clear ego. Births, growing up, partings and deaths are always struggles with will, and that is why they are difficult, and therefore we have created so many rituals for them. We would question the meaningfulness of the childhood world and wonder it openly, and this is considered as a distinctive sign of growing up to adulthood, and even a signal of an adulthood itself, but it is easy to understand that such a modern idea of adulthood is far too flimsy. The fragility of the adulthood is a shared secret of all adults. It is the secret of the whole civilisation!
Childhood is not just preparing for future trials, and the growing up is not an accomplishing of a childhood missions. Confronting the familiar issues is preparing to leave the protection of childhood. Growing up means for most people still moving the natural barriers out of the way of one’s dreams and objectives (and after the years of growth, again, increasing of them). Families willingly support the fulfilment of goals of childhood, or comfort in failures. Whatever the reason may be, in this sense they complicate the independence of their members.
Shame protects youth
The fact is that teen wants not just any kind of adulthood, but the one he has carefully prepared for himself. He doesn’t care about adulthood, which could make him but ashamed. He doesn’t care about adulthood of breeding, illnesses and aging which he see almost wretched and bestial. He doesn’t want to be ashamed of even our own mental unpredictability and stupidity, not to mention the adult being out-of-date and pitiful. In so doing, he is constantly in danger of rejecting the very thing he is growing up towards—and talking about humans, this risk is realised.
When childhood and adolescence are described in psychology as the development of personality, these interpretations usually relies on perception of importance of human cultivation. Nature didn’t, however, design childhood and youth as to be permanent, and therefore, also the properties of childhood and youth, for example the personality, identity, or even the language, to be everlasting. The earlier human species left behind almost everything they had learned when they were young, but the developmental disorder of the modern human enabled the life-long learning. As the usefulness of learning was understood, also the innate desire to teaching came into being. The teaching influenced to interaction and dependence between men, and it supported and increased the characteristics of adolescent coming up. Everybody knows that a child has been created to learn and that he learns eagerly. What we do not know is that learning has a biological background and that’s why it is meant to be temporary only.